Do you want to know a secret? I haven't told this to my MMI group yet, so lean in.
On the 3rd day of Millionaire Mind Intensive, we had a challenge, break an arrow with your throat, pointy bit facing that delicate part of your body. No hands, no knees, just your throat. There were hundreds of people in the room; a lot was sceptical, scared. But I wasn't. I was excited! I have done something similar before; I've bent iron with my throat once.
I was pumped. I remembered the emotions I had the first time I accomplished the challenge. It was bloody wonderful! I wanted to feel that again, and I was jumping for joy.
But not until we start the activity. You see, after we were divided into groups, our team appointed me as their team leader because they know I've done it before.
When the leaders were asked to stay standing while the rest sat down and the speaker gave us instructions, my team was oblivious that I was SCARED, I was FREAKING OUT, my heart was racing so fast, I was shitting myself. Suddenly, it's not just about me anymore. I've got a team who entrusted me to be their leader. Suddenly I am responsible. Make sure I check that everyone was doing it right, double-check they're doing it safely, making sure no one gets hurt. But more than that my FEAR OF FAILURE kicked in. I was terrified that I would be the one who wouldn't be able to do it. So many what-ifs, I was scared of what they will think of me if I fail.
When the speaker signalled the start of the challenge, I didn't know what happened. It must be the energy in the room. All of a sudden, I switched into a Mama Bear mode. Helping them, guiding, making sure all steps are correctly followed. With every arrow smashed, my teammates crushing it, celebrating as they go, my fear has vanished - even before my turn to break my own arrow that happened to be aptly labelled as the metaphor of my fear of failure.
I am no longer afraid of failure, because how could I fail if I am surrounded by the best people in the world, such as the fantastic people in our team. How could I fail if I surround myself with people that are supporting, trusting, celebrating with me? With these kinds of people around us, we are INVINCIBLE. There are no more failure, only lessons learned and delayed success.